Tuesday, November 9, 2010

"Tell me in small words."

I was following up on a hospice referral this week and the nursing home staff told me that there was just one problem - the patient didn't have a payer source. "What?" I said. "There's no payer source." "I'm a chaplain. Tell me in small words," I replied.  Once they finished laughing, they explained to me how this patient with an insurance company managed Medicare plan couldn't access benefits that general Medicare recipients have. It was one of several long, convoluted, and frustrating conversations I had around the issue.

Putting aside my personal feelings about this company and this issue, it occurred to me that there is a real benefit in getting and giving explanations "in small words." Hospice has a lot of jargon, as does health care in general. Those of us who work in any part of it become familiar with the lingo. At this point I can talk about "scheduled" medication vs PRN medication with the best of them. I know the medications we generally use and I usually understand what our nurses are talking about. When I have a patient in pain I know how  to talk with a nursing home med nurse.

But when talking with our nurses and, especially, when talking with patients and families, I tend to use small words. I talk about a patient being "short of breath." I don't say he has "dyspnea." I talk about someone losing weight and "appearing gaunt" rather than saying she's "cachectic." I will mention apnea to families, but I always describe what that means and talk about what they will observe when a dying person has apnea.

I've also realized that I try to describe medical end-of-life issues in concrete everyday terms. For an actively dying patient with a fever that isn't responding to medication, I talk about the "body's thermostat" which is no longer working. For other questions I may talk about the "body's electric system." It isn't necessarily how a nurse would describe end-of-life medical issues, but the metaphors are the ones that work for me in understanding what happens as the body ceases to function. They also seem to be metaphors that help families understand what is happening.

I know lots of "big words," but I am convinced that sometimes the simplest, smallest words are the best way we can communicate. I'm going to keep the sentence "tell me in small words" in mind as I work with families in the hope that by using "small words" we will better understand and communicate with each other.

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